Mind, Body, Soul & The Number 3

 

I’m fascinated with the number 3.

3 Pennies became a big part of my life. So when I was gifted an Alex and Ani gift card, I decided to get the Number 3 charm bracelet as a nod to 3 Pennies. Reading the description for its meaning on their website seemed to deepen my connection to the number.

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Three is the number of creation, artists and intuitives, as well as the Trinity, sacred in many religions. Embodying divine wholeness, the number encompasses the mind, body, and spirit, as well as the past, present, and future. People who embody the number three are said to be imaginative, talented, and dynamic. Live your life with child-like joy and wonder, using your creativity.

And the words, Wholeness, Intuition, and Creativity are empowering words that are good reminders for me to have too.

A couple weeks ago, I was in the middle of my marathon of college fairs and high school visits for my job. Working long days and exerting a lot of energy as to be “on” for hours and hours at a time, I caught myself trying to listen to my body more than ever. I was becoming hyper-aware of myself and trying to figure out what was best for me in the moment and what I needed to do for me to be the most successful version of myself. Continue reading

He Is Enough: Why We Have Nothing To Prove

A couple years ago, I ended a poem I wrote with these lines,

It’s hard to say, I’ve had enough
  and it’s hard to say, I am enough.

And then just recently, I shared one of the hardest posts I have written yet, “How I’m Real: The Rainy Days” in which I recounted a bad day I was having mentally. When I wrote  down all the terrible things I was telling myself over and over again that day. They all pointed back to me feeling like I am not enough. So this theme of not being enough and doing enough has been lingering for years. I wasn’t sure how to help it.

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The Every Dollar Budget

Every Dollar quoteA. How many of you budget? B. How many of you kind of budget? C. How many of you know know the concept of a budget and know it’s a good idea, but don’t really know how to do it with your own money and get intimidated so instead you just don’t do it at all.

And these aren’t rhetorical questions! I for real want to know! So answer below or let me know via social media!

I used to be C.

I still remember how overwhelmed I had become with my finances. I would sit down to pay bills and I would see my credit card, car, and student loan balances and my head would swirl trying to figure out where to start. How was I supposed to pay these things off? Do I just put an extra $5 on this credit card and this one and maybe this one if I think I might have the room for it? I had no idea.

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How I’m Real: The Rainy Days

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My eyes were looking down at my bowl of soup, but I wasn’t fully looking at it. I was so deep into my head, it didn’t seem like I was fully present. Jordan will always ask, “Are you doing okay?” when he can sense I am stressed, sad, upset, or struggling with a bad mood. But this time, when he asked it was different. He seemed alarmed and genuinely concerned.

This was last September. When I was going on my sixth month of job searching with a lot of rejection, silence, and no light in sight. I was waitressing, working retail, and freelancing to barely scrape by.

One of my favorite human beings in the whole world passed away the month before.

Earlier that day, I got mad at Jordan (which never happens) over the littlest thing right before I left for job #1 of the day. It was the thing that broke open the big glass jar of negativity I had filled so high I was struggling to keep the lid shut. So much that I was tired and gave in. I tossed the lid and turned the faucet on and let the negativity spill over the top of the jar. I let it go at a constant flow all afternoon.

My mind took my heart out back and brutally beat it up.

So there I was, trying to eat soup before job #2 that night as I was having a mental beatdown that had been lasting for hours. I don’t like calling into work, but I couldn’t imagine working for another few hours with this mental beating continuing while I try to force smiles and small talk with customers.

I needed to stop what was happening and talk. After I called in, I grabbed a notebook and started organizing the thoughts and feelings that had been flowing from the faucet and overflowing from the jar. I had no idea where to start and how to say it all so I needed to get it down on paper first.

I made four boxes and wrote the categories I knew my mind had been focusing on: Job, Finances, Body, Relationships. I wrote down all the mean and terrible things my mind was telling myself that afternoon. Then the hardest part…I read all the awful things I was telling myself out loud to the man that loves me. I cried and even harder when I got to some statements I could barely utter from my mouth.

Everything I was thinking and saying to myself connected back to one glaring feeling: I AM NOT ENOUGH.

I had been job searching for six months and going nowhere fast. It felt like despite all the hard work I had done prior and all that I had achieved just wasn’t enough. That my degree and great experiences I was fortunate to have under my belt just weren’t enough. That maybe all I was enough for was the waitress job. You may read that last statement and think it’s a bit dramatic, but when you have been consumed, drained, exhausted and in this cycle of rejection and getting nowhere, you start to think these things.

I was so broken down, I questioned just about everything.

As for my finances, I was barely getting by. Worrying weather or not I would make enough money to cover my student loan bill or car payment in the next two waitressing shifts became a norm. It wasn’t just living paycheck to paycheck. This was living waitress shift to waitress shift and waiting for other pay days and checks to come in. I was completely filled with shame and embarrassment.

My busy and inconsistent schedule made it hard to maintain a healthy diet and enough exercise. It was even harder to see family and friends. Jordan would go to my family’s weekly Tuesday family dinner while I worked. I missed everyone a lot.

I was trying to sustain myself and in turn just wasn’t there.

As I slipped into this season of sadness and figured out I was experiencing depression, I had no idea how to talk to my friends about what I was going through. I didn’t know how to start a conversation with “So I think I am depressed.” The longer I didn’t bring it up, the worse it felt. It felt like I was hiding. It felt like a secret. I had been so open about hard times I had gone through before, but this time I couldn’t figure out a way to communicate it.

It wasn’t long after that night staring at my soup that I called my mom and told her what I was experiencing and that night I texted two of my best friends to fill them in. And after that, pressure started going away and I started working toward being more open.

So why am I telling this story?

I’ve been fascinated with the idea that social media is people’s highlight reels. I think we can agree they pretty much are. You are most likely going to see an “I am excited to announce…” post, an engagement photo, bought a new car!, baby announcement, gender reveal, new home owner post just about every day. And they continue to get more creative and elaborate as we go along.

I love them. I do them too from time to time. When I bought my Jeep, paid off credit cards, started a new job, got published in my first magazine. These are all things we can be proud of.

The problem: When it starts to become the only thing we see, only the great stuff, we start to think everyone else must have their shit together and we don’t. They are better, their life must be great, must be nice to do that, I bet they are happy all the time.

I think this too. I sometimes trap myself in the game of comparison. But as I experienced this really really tough season of life and learned more about this whole highlight reel concept, I wanted to go against it. Instead of just a highlight reel, I want to start showing people how I am real. 

That I don’t have it all together even if my Instagram account looks like I do. That if I post about paying off a credit card and losing weight, that there was a lot of hard work, sacrifice, tears, and fight that went into it before that photo was taken.

I don’t want to feel weird posting a happy dandy picture and feel like I am hiding the struggles that I am going through.

I want people to know that none of us have our shit together. I want people to be more mindful that others are probably dealing with their own struggles too. You aren’t alone. Just this last year in my circle of friends…

One lost a dear friend that is younger than us to a car accident last November
Another had a miscarriage and has felt like she is carrying the burden alone
And one of my friends was laid off from her job unexpectedly and then experienced losing her second baby just this year.

This is tough real life stuff. A lot of that is not shown on social media. We are all real. And we feel. And sometimes we get sad and sometimes it’s hard to do life. Last year was the deepest I’ve swam in sadness. But I have been learning how to cope and handle the tough times in healthy ways. And I am trying really hard to be more open about it.

The night I read the terrible things I thought about myself to Jordan, he took me to Liberty Memorial afterward and I took this picture and posted it on social media. I referenced the rainy day inside myself. I was not ready to talk or write about it, but I knew I would eventually when I was ready. Even months later, I am still a little scared to write this and put it out there, but I feel like it is so needed. I can’t keep this to myself. I should share it with you.

Photo by Rachel Marshall

You aren’t alone. You will be sad, but it’s okay. It will get better. Storms don’t last forever.

Sending good vibes and prayers your way.

With extra sprinkles on top,

Rachel

Unfollow, Unsubscribe, Unplug: Ways To Declutter Your Life

With the start of the new year and a new job, it sure felt like a brand new chapter. There have been a lot of things I have wanted to improve upon and change because I was simply tired of living and feeling certain ways. So I have been making changes and developing new habits that feel healthier and better. The book, Grace Not Perfection by Emily Ley was also perfect motivation to hone these habits as she touched on a lot of the same things I was trying to change and work on.

So what have I been doing? What changes have I been making? What habits have I been forming? I am excited to geek out and share! Continue reading

Book Recommendation: Grace Not Perfection

“Grace is free – For imperfect and unworthy people like you and me. Did you catch that? You don’t have to be perfect! I don’t either!” Excerpt from Grace Not Perfection by Emily Ley.

And I don’t either.

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I spotted this bright pink book at Barnes and Noble and just from the brief skim of the back and quick flip through the pages, I knew this book would be right up my alley and something I would want to read in the new year, so I asked for it for Christmas from Jordan. Aaannnnnd I got it for Christmas. 🙂

Little did I know that my heart would pick Grace as my word for the year when being prompted to pick one at our church on New Years Day.

I finished this book by the end of January and loved it. I related to it so much.

“We run on adrenaline and lattes. If we’re not busy, then we’re not measuring up. At least that’s what we’ve told ourselves.” page 2 

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Money Saving Tip: Target REDcard & Cartwheel App

With two weeks of 2017 under our belts, how is everyone doing? How are the resolutions and goals going?

I will say the 2017 spark and glow is still glittering in my life despite taking down our Christmas decorations (I really had to force myself). I don’t know if I have ever been so jazzed about my goals. How many of you created your own Goal Board?

I’ve been working to be better focused, specific, and effective with my goals and how I accomplish them. I will admit there are a lot of goals I want to check off this year alone. Since there is so much, they have all been swirling in my head. I wanted to focus them better in my mind so I decided to think of my goals in category form and came up with the idea of working on my BFF (Body + Faith + Finances). When you look at my goals almost all of them add up to these three pillars in many ways. And then they will all spill over to this blog. 🙂

Do your goals add up to a fun acronym?! Now let’s get to The Extra Sprinkles!

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My 5th Blogging Anniversary & How To Make A Goal Board For 2017

Five years ago, at 12:19am, I posted on Facebook, “I am excited about my new blog I just started tonight! I am still trying to figure things out, but I hope you like it and continue to visit.” It was the night I created this blog and debuted it as Glitter & The Girly Girl in which I blogged as all the way up until the rebrand to this; The Extra Sprinkles.

Five years ago, I created this blog and published my first post introducing myself. I actually reread it today and saw how different I am all the while thinking how much hadn’t changed too. Not only do I still love glitter and love Lady Gaga even more now, I saw how I had almost the same goals for the blog as I do today.

The Beginning

The picture I used to introduce myself in my first post! 20 year old Rachel 😉

“I want this site to be a place where you can be entertained, learn, grow, be inspired, get you thinking, and more! But it is also going to help me do the same.” – The Beginning, January 3, 2012

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Tips To Stay Organized & On Top Of Your Bills

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As you know, I am on my adventure to being debt free. I told you about completing Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University and paying off my first three credit cards.

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Bye credit cards 😉

So I had finally started to get into a groove with this whole being better with my money and focused on paying down debt thing.

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And then I left my job I was miserable at and it halted my progress. I needed to find ways to pay the bills since I didn’t have another solid job lined up.

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25 Highlights From 2016 & Looking Ahead to 2017

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I would say 2016 has been my toughest year yet; for many reasons. Some of it, I have already written about and others I am sure will eventually make it’s way on this blog. In other ways, it has been a great year. Almost a perfect combination of bittersweet.

I took time to reflect on 2016 and made a list of 25 highlights. I am taking December to start putting together my goals and visions for 2017. Maybe this will inspire you to do the same? 🙂

Here we go! (This list is bursting with links that have to do with these highlights if you want to look into them more.) Continue reading